#BlogtemberChallenge Day 13: Singleness

Your current relationship status. If dating/married, give us a glimpse of your story! If single, share about this special season.

I am single.

Now, if you’re anything like 95% of the people I know, upon reading that sentence you likely cocked your head to the side, thought some variation of aww, and perhaps started compiling a mental list of eligible bachelors you know in the greater New York City area. Well you can stop that right now, and not just because dating in NYC is just as awful as it’s portrayed on television.

I really need to change the way I define my “relationship status.” I am joyfully, enthusiastically single, and not necessarily looking to change that. I am single by choice.

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If you recall my post on things I love about myself , you’ll remember that my number one favorite quality is my independence. I’m not all about having guys pay for my meals and deal with household stuff, which are things many of my attached girlfriends define as the perks of relationships. I’m quite capable, thankyouverymuch. I was never the kid dreaming about wedding dresses and babies – I was the kid dreaming about brownstones and magazines.

I’m single, and I’m loving it. Maybe God is preparing a husband for me. Maybe He isn’t, and I’m meant to be single my whole life. I’d be content with that. Sometimes I’m hopeful for it! Frankly – if I’d been in a relationship earlier this year, I may not have dropped everything to chase a crazy dream in the Northeast. I may not have joined Liberty and the community groups that have changed my life. I may not be spending my Saturday drafting blog posts – maybe I wouldn’t have even started blogging at all.

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Don’t get me wrong – I think relationships are wonderful things. I’ve had them before. I have many friends who are married – two just had their wedding last night, in fact. I love and support those relationships because I know that they are good and godly. And because those friends support my singleness in the same way.

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Are you single and loving it? Sometimes I feel like the only one not searching for a husband!


12 thoughts on “#BlogtemberChallenge Day 13: Singleness

  1. I love your perspective on this, that you’ve embraced a choice rather than wishing for something to happen or change! I am in a (wonderful) relationship but I’ve got to say there are moments I long for the independence and freedom to go where I wish with no responsibilities so I can understand your perspective!


  2. Rachel G says:

    🙂 I absolutely love your enthusiasm in this post. Kind of matches the enthusiasm I can see in your blog’s title. Being married is most definitely not the only way to live. When I was single, sometimes people would ask me if I wanted a boyfriend and I’d say “Not particularly” and they usually wouldn’t believe me. But at that point I really couldn’t imagine “wanting a boyfriend” in general…and I still can’t. I want my own husband very much but as an item I was never one to want a husband in general. I was very surprised by how much I happen to like my guy–and for me, I think there’s almost more freedom and more courage now that I’m with him than I had before. I don’t think I would have had the guts to move to China long-term by myself, I like my family too much, but with him here, I do have some of my family with me, and that’s enough to make me love it here!


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